I agreed this isn't a big deal. I wasn't disturbed because of a loss of "mian zi", hell I didn't even thought about it until it was brought up. I believe I was disturbed because of a shock to my core values of how friends should interact. It's terribly self-centered and stupid of me to judge others by my own standards. Well, I'm no saint, and I can be pretty egoestical sometimes. I don't think I'm enraged, just feeling disturbed. Gimme some time, it should disappear.